A Secret About The Secret…

            The Secret by Rhonda Byrne is really all about gratitude and being grateful and really appreciating what you have right now, in this moment…that is the true essence of The Secret. It’s all about being happy with whatever you have now…being happy in the present moment rather than looking to the future and thinking “I’ll be happy when I have…when I realize my goal of…when I marry…” and so on.  Sorry to burst your bubble, but the law of attraction doesn’t work this way.

            Here’s how the law of attraction works…you will attract into your life anything which creates more of/re-enforces your current feelings.  Let’s look at an example because it can get a bit confusing…the simplest things are sometimes the most challenging!

Example 1: You have just started to take some new supplements for a health issue based on a natural medicine book you just read.  You also ordered some books on meditation and spiritual healing and you have been practicing the techniques for a few weeks.  Rather than an improvement, all of your symptoms have gotten worse and you feel like a complete failure, like maybe you don’t deserve health.  Well, you’ll probably attract a further worsening of symptoms if you choose to feel this way.  A better way would be to view the worsening as a healing crises (a worsening before an improvement) and be happy as this could be a sign of a full recovery!

Example 2: Your girlfriend/boyfriend just broke up with you and you feel miserable,   lonely, and, well, just plain unlovable and unwanted.  Even worse, you feel that it is all your fault, and you must have done something wrong.  You feel: guilty, lonely, unhappy, unlovable, unwanted, and bored without your boyfriend/girlfriend.  Based on the information in the previous paragraphs, what do you think these feelings will attract?

               They will attract even more situations that create in you those miserable, negative feelings! 

The law of attraction is based upon vibrations of energy…feelings.  It works by attracting feelings to you, not physical events.  A better way to handle the situation above would have been to feel free to meet someone better now that you aren’t bound to your ex.  Find the good in every situation.  Sometimes we must sift though the dirty feelings which society has attached to certain events in order to find the positive.  It’s there, in every situation and the happiest people in life are those who have taken the time to find it.